Tuesday, June 24, 2014

This is good bye

It's time to say goodbye.

This blog was such a great outlet for me when I first started it so many years ago. It was meant to chronicle our new adventure to Denmark.

Now it seems like I rarely post anymore and I wanted to give it a proper send off. There are a LOT of memories inside this little blog. I could never delete it just because it holds such a giant chunk of my heart.

I have lost interest in my fitness blog as well. I'll be saying goodbye to it at some point too. But I am leaving it for now. One thing at a time!

I'm not done blogging, but this chapter "The Arff Adventure" is over. Thanks so much for reading!

Take care and God bless!

Thursday, April 3, 2014

Hi friends!

How was your day, friends? Mine was fantastic! I've been feeling on top of the world.
Of course, not everything is perfect, but we can't sit around and wait for things
to be perfect, life is out there....waiting! Live today!!
I spent a little time with friends today. Always the best part of my week. :)
Hard to imagine how I ever lived a life without them. I used to be such a hermit.
I hardly ever left my house. I'd go to the gym. The store. The end.
I feel like that awkward girl in school that takes a while to bloom into the beautiful
person she was meant to be.
Not that I'm extraordinary now, still a little bit of a Plain Jane, but it took me an extra long time to really find myself.
I'm a very passionate person. And this passion translates into strong feelings. However, I spent my whole life scared to be too open with my feelings. I was perpetually afraid of looking stupid. So I was pretty introverted. In a group, I usually kept quiet and nod in agreement with people, even if I really didn't. I wanted to seem agreeable and likeable. I'm still a very introverted person. That's just my personality. But I've gotten a lot better. I'm not nearly as shy as I used to be. I will speak my mind when I find it appropriate. Even my husband is amazed by how much I've come out of my shell since he met me. Especially in the last year. But when you go through difficult times you have no choice but to be strong. It changes you. For the better though. I am much braver than I ever thought I could be.
And now, when it comes to friendships, the above image sings to me. And I've learned that friendship isn't about always seeing eye to eye, it's being able to remain friends when you don't.

I bought a book called Positive Quotes for Every Day. You read a page a day and at the end of the page, it gives you a to-do task to help you stay on the path to positivity. And do you know what today said?
"Today I resolve to be real..."

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

I've got a secret!

I'd like to apologize in advance to all the girls who have to stand next to me at the beach this summer. Because I'll be in the best shape of my life!
I've been into fitness for many years, but a few months ago I discovered a hidden gem of a workout. It has blown my mind!
I've increased my strength and stamina, improved my mood, and my body is changing crazy fast
It isn't just one workout, it's many. So based on your mood for the day, you can pick which one you want to do. You'll never get bored. I absolutely love them! If you aren't used to exercise, they might kick your ass. But if you are an avid exerciser and need help getting out of a plateau or rut, this is it!
But here's the thing, if you want the key to this amazing workout that will transform your body in no time flat, you need to check out my fitness blog (see side bar). However, it's like an exclusive club, a secret society...;) You need to request access to it.
Don't worry. I won't make you drink goat's blood or anything. ;) All you have to do is email me and I will grant you access.
No need to be sick of the same old workouts that give you no results!! Kick your metabolism into high gear and blast your fat away. (p.s. you can thank me later)

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

A true friend doesn't care...

I've just had six days of fun. It was a much welcomed break from reality. But I missed my friends. My days just don't seem complete without them.

I saw this and it reminded me of who they are. Because it's true - they love me for who I am. We go through life meeting many different people. We try to get along with everyone and some friendships fizzle and fade away. I'm thankful for my friends, near and far. The new friends and the old. Because they are all so precious to me. They know all my ugly secrets, and love me anyway. Disagree with me but don't blame me. Hold me above water when I feel like I'm sinking. Pat me on the back when I do something good.

One thing that is nice about getting older is the quality of the friendships we have. The older you get the less time you are willing to spend on the happiness suckers. Everyone has one of those friends that just drain you because it takes so much effort to walk on egg shells all the time so as not to upset their overly sensitive nature. YUK! Ain't nobody got time for that!! Weed them out...and fast! Or just continue to be yourself (refusing to walk on those egg shells) and let nature take it's course. :)

So thank you, dear friends. For loving me when I didn't deserve it. For standing up for me when I wasn't strong enough to do it on my own. For not leaving me when things weren't perfect. For listening to my same old problems for the 100th time. For knowing when to give advice and when to just listen. I love you more than you'll ever know.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

big things

This is for all the times I wished that my kids were "just a little older"

...so I didn't have to lug around a stroller, diaper bag, toys and cheerios

...so I didn't have to get up in the middle of the night

...so I didn't have to change diapers and wash bottles

...so I could use the bathroom undisturbed

...so I didn't have to watch another episode of Dora

...so we didn't have to go through teething and potty training

...so that I could go out for dinner with just my husband


What I was doing was

bringing my best buddy everywhere with me

and listening to the cooing and jabbering from the crib.

Kissing toes and giving tickles during diaper changing time.

Getting company because my best buddy loved to be with me every where I was.

Singing our favorite songs and watching our favorite cartoons.

Laughing and playing peek-a-boo.

Taking trips as a family.


Being a parent is hard work. Frustrating and stressful at times.
But how quickly the time slips away.
My first born is in her last years of school.
My tiny, tiny preemie....all grown up!
Nearly 17!
I am ashamed at all the times I wished her childhood away.
All those little things
were BIG things.
I know that now.
I wished for a day when it would be just my husband and I.
But that day will be here far too soon,
I know it.

My children will grow.
There will be graduations, weddings, and grandchildren.
I am thankful to have children that will eventually have their own families.
I will love being grandma and seeing our family grow and grow
over the years.
Getting together on holidays and special occasions.

But I'm not ready for that yet. 
I'm still mommy. They still think I'm the greatest woman in the world.
They still sit on my lap and listen to my stories.
They still play toys.
They still believe in Santa.

I'm going to love and hug and squeeze them until they push me away.
I will enjoy 

I love you, sweet babies of mine.

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

You tried what?

So, last weekend was a BLAST! Seriously, that little bar didn't know what hit it! HAHA! I had so much fun. Like one of the instructors said, "where else can you get 30 women together and not have cattiness?" XaBeat! It's not about competition with us - it's about empowering each other. I get so tired of jealousy and competition between women. There is a place in the world for competition, but I don't believe it should be between friends. And when you don't have that in your circle of friends, you know you have found a circle to stay in for life!

Here is a small group of us from that night. These are my girls! Minus a few :( I wish I would have gotten a picture of the entire group. :(

And on a different note, I got talked into trying something so different, and so out of my comfort zone, (not to mention a little bit risqué) that I almost don't dare mentioning it. Almost ;)

It's called Pole. And it is a massive workout!

2 friends and I decided to check out a class in town last Sunday and all I have to say is WE ARE HOOKED! 

It was so scary walking in that room, seeing the poles and not knowing at all what to expect. But the woman that lead the class was so warm and welcoming. She was 58 and in absolutely incredible shape! She doesn't lift weights at all (besides her body weight on the pole) and her arms were so muscular and defined. She used to be a nurse and after an injury that left her little options for exercise, she found pole. And let me tell you what, if you think you are strong, if you think you are fit, I dare you to try this class! You use your muscles in ways that you ordinarily don't, so it's a challenge. 

We are going again. And again. And again! I'm already looking into getting a pole for my basement. They aren't very expensive and they are portable so you can take them down and put them up with ease. 

Now, before you judge, (because I know you are out there), this is not stripping or sexual in any way. It's an exercise class - plain and simple. Except maybe not simple ;) Like XaBeat, you feel very sexy and feminine while doing it. We only learned the basics, obviously, because it was our first class. But by the end of the hour, we felt amazing! And we all said how much we couldn't wait to go again! I'm excited to see where this takes us! Here I go again - on another journey!

Thursday, February 27, 2014

Look out DL!

The XaBeat girls are coming!

I am SUPER excited for the weekend. Tomorrow, I am leaving with a bunch of talented, beautiful, smart, hilarious, sweet, and just plain AWESOME women for a retreat. We are headed to lakes country to drink, laugh and take over the dance floor! It's going to be cold but we're sure to heat things up!

I'm not sure how many of us instructors are headed out there but I wouldn't be surprised if it's almost 30! I don't remember the last time I had a slumber party with girlfriends! Today, some of us are going out for sushi and then manis and pedis. Then maybe a little wine at the Cork tonight.

I can't even believe how blessed I have become with such great friends. For the first time in my life, I feel like I fit in somewhere. I feel loved and accepted by these women. I don't feel like the hermit I felt I was when I was "just a mom" at home with my kids. I never got out and met people. And I really didn't mind because my kids were the priority. And as much as I hate to see my children grow up so fast, it is really nice to have some freedom and great friends to share it with!

So look out Detroit Lakes! Here we come! And if you have no clue what XaBeat is, check this out!